Men’s Issues
Alright guys. Let’s talk.
Is it hard for you to admit when you are struggling? Would you rather look like you’re always in control, rather than show your emotions to others? Did it take a while for you to even start getting help and looking for a therapist?
In American culture, men are taught to be stoic, confident, courageous, strong, “mentally tough,” and in control. We’re told that this is what it means to “be a real man,” and indeed many men exhibit these traditionally masculine qualities. And even if you don’t, the expectation is still there. What’s important to note is that masculinity isn’t a bad thing! I’m sure these qualities serve you in some areas of life. For example, competitiveness and stoicism are quite helpful in athletics, and compartmentalizing your emotions probably helps you function well in the midst of difficult, stressful times.
Where the going gets tough.
However, what often happens is that these same qualities aren’t always so helpful in other areas of life. For example, being stoic and looking strong all the time might make it difficult to be vulnerable and connect deeply in relationships. Further, some men might not feel like they adhere to the masculine norm, but still feel the expectation from those in their lives to be masculine, which can be tough to deal with.
In particular, even though emotions are a normal, natural part of the human experience, men often struggle to express or connect with their emotions. This is because men and boys are socialized to ignore and suppress their emotions, save for one: anger, and all of its cousins (frustration, irritation, annoyance, etc.). By continuing to suppress your emotions, you will likely create wedges in your relationships and prevent yourself from dealing with what’s underneath. This is where I can help.
Part of why I enjoy working with men is that I’m a guy, too. I get what it’s like! In therapy, I can help you:
Manage and communicate your emotions more effectively
Improve your relationships
Be more open and vulnerable with others
Function better at work
Get better at managing stress and anxiety
Learn to communicate with others in healthier ways
Find a sense of balance in your life
Reconnect with the things that are most important to you
And many other things!
